Date Yo Self
After two months of chilling out in NYC (aka living in yoga clothes/trying not to die in the oppressive heat) I decided last week that it was the perfect opportunity for a solo date day. The weather had turned into something I can only describe as pure heaven (thanks autumn) and to be perfectly honest I needed a little pick me up (because, hormones). As my guru Elizabeth Gilbert said - Whatever it is - big or small - do your future self a kindness today — and for the sake of my sanity and those around me, I really needed a day of self love. So I ditched the active wear for jeans, a tailored shirt and my favourite coral coloured flats. I lit a candle in the bathroom while I applied foundation, concealer and a little eyeshadow and I spritzed the hell out of my favourite perfume -- all for day of me, because some days you've just gotta date yo damned self.
Like my favourite dates with my husband, I didn’t have specific plans apart from heading to the West Village and seeing where the day led me. I walked along Grove and Barrow and West 10th Streets with no direction in mind but just let myself slowly amble while I paused every now and then to take in the glossy front doors and swoon worthy stoops. I sat in a cafe and nibbled on a croissant and pretended to read my book while I shamelessly eavesdropped on the tables next to me (seriously, NYC is the best place to eavesdrop). I visited my favourite book store and relished that glorious new book smell (gosh, that smell). I ate warm prosciutto arancini in the sun and headed to a chick flick where I happily inhaled a huge bag of M&M’s in a nearly empty theatre. Later that afternoon when my date day was nearly over and I was feeling much more like myself I popped in my headphones and headed to the High Line where I paused for a moment or two and took in some deep yogic breaths. It was calming, restorative and a perfect moving meditation before heading home.
I thought a lot about self care that day and how it’s so important to identify when it’s needed (and why) and to give yourself permission to make it a priority. The time you take out to date yo beautiful self doesn’t have to be a full day, it could be as simple as using that shower gel that reminds you of your honeymoon or taking the longer route to work so you can listen to your favourite song just that one more time before sitting down at your desk. The things you do (or don’t do) to take care of yourself don’t have to be world changing or extravagant they just have to be the best thing for you in that moment. As Etty Hilesum said Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths. Or as I like to think - it’s the rest we take between eating 3000 M&M’s in a dark movie theatre in Chelsea.